How You’ve Been Played…
and How You’ve Played Yourself
Educate attendees on what a scam really is, expose the mindset & actions that lead to financial ruin, and teach them how to stop being both a victim and a perpetrator.
How You’ve Been Played…
and How You’ve Played Yourself
Educate attendees on what a scam really is, expose the mindset & actions that lead to financial ruin, and teach them how to stop being both a victim and a perpetrator.
Start with a poll: “When you hear the word SCAM, what’s the first thing you think of?” (Options: Ponzi scheme, online fraud, bad business deal, etc.)
Tell them: “By the end of today, your definition of a scam is going to expand — and you might realize YOU have been both the victim… and the scammer.”
Share a quick story of a popular scam (romance scam, fake IRS calls) to warm them up — then pivot:
“But here’s the thing — sometimes the biggest scam in your life is the one you ran on yourself… or on someone you owed.”
Start with a poll: “When you hear the word SCAM, what’s the first thing you think of?” (Options: Ponzi scheme, online fraud, bad business deal, etc.)
Tell them: “By the end of today, your definition of a scam is going to expand — and you might realize YOU have been both the victim… and the scammer.”
Share a quick story of a popular scam (romance scam, fake IRS calls) to warm them up — then pivot:
“But here’s the thing — sometimes the biggest scam in your life is the one you ran on yourself… or on someone you owed.”
Define scam: “A dishonest scheme or action intended to cheat someone out of something
— usually money or value.”
Most people think scams are just big criminal operations — but they can be as small as:
Not delivering a service you promised.
Not paying a bill you agreed to pay.
Taking goods or services on credit and never fulfilling payment.
“If you signed for it, agreed to it, or used it — but never paid for it — that’s a scam. Period.”
You sign a cell phone contract, don’t pay, it goes to collections → that’s YOU scamming the phone company.
You take out a loan and ghost the payments → that’s YOU scamming the lender.
“By a show of hands (or chat), how many of you just realized you might have been the scammer at some point?”
When you fail to pay a bill, the creditor loses — so they send your debt to collections.
Collections are legal documentation that you failed to honor your agreement.
Every unpaid bill is basically your name on a list that says: “This person doesn’t keep their word.
Lenders don’t care about your excuse — they see the collection as proof of risk.
Missed payment →
Late fee + credit report hit →
Debt sold to collections →
Credit score drops (sometimes 100+ points) →
Higher interest rates, fewer approvals.
Show a credit report screenshot with multiple collections and explain how each one is tied to an unpaid agreement (aka a “mini-scam”).
While people scam companies by not paying, companies & people scam YOU by:
Selling false promises (fake investment schemes, fake job offers).
Hidden fees in contracts you didn’t read.
Predatory lending (“90 days same as cash” traps).
The #1 way to avoid scams: Know the rules of the game before you play.
“Every scam works because of ignorance — either yours or theirs. The less you know, the more expensive life becomes.”
“What’s the worst scam you’ve ever fallen for?”
Let them share for 2-3 minutes.
Sometimes you are the scam — to yourself.
Ways you scam yourself:
Not investing in your own growth.
Living beyond your means.
Ignoring your financial situation until it becomes unfixable.
Choosing instant gratification over long-term security.
“It’s not always someone else stealing from you — sometimes, you’re stealing from your future self.”
Define scam: “A dishonest scheme or action intended to cheat someone out of something
— usually money or value.”
Most people think scams are just big criminal operations — but they can be as small as:
Not delivering a service you promised.
Not paying a bill you agreed to pay.
Taking goods or services on credit and never fulfilling payment.
“If you signed for it, agreed to it, or used it — but never paid for it — that’s a scam. Period.”
You sign a cell phone contract, don’t pay, it goes to collections → that’s YOU scamming the phone company.
You take out a loan and ghost the payments → that’s YOU scamming the lender.
“By a show of hands (or chat), how many of you just realized you might have been the scammer at some point?”
When you fail to pay a bill, the creditor loses — so they send your debt to collections.
Collections are legal documentation that you failed to honor your agreement.
Every unpaid bill is basically your name on a list that says: “This person doesn’t keep their word.
Lenders don’t care about your excuse — they see the collection as proof of risk.
Missed payment →
Late fee + credit report hit →
Debt sold to collections →
Credit score drops (sometimes 100+ points) →
Higher interest rates, fewer approvals.
Show a credit report screenshot with multiple collections and explain how each one is tied to an unpaid agreement (aka a “mini-scam”).
While people scam companies by not paying, companies & people scam YOU by:
Selling false promises (fake investment schemes, fake job offers).
Hidden fees in contracts you didn’t read.
Predatory lending (“90 days same as cash” traps).
The #1 way to avoid scams: Know the rules of the game before you play.
“Every scam works because of ignorance — either yours or theirs. The less you know, the more expensive life becomes.”
“What’s the worst scam you’ve ever fallen for?” Let them share for 2-3 minutes.
Sometimes you are the scam — to yourself.
Ways you scam yourself:
Not investing in your own growth.
Living beyond your means.
Ignoring your financial situation until it becomes unfixable.
Choosing instant gratification over long-term security.
“It’s not always someone else stealing from you — sometimes, you’re stealing from your future self.”


Darcel Ballentine
Barone LLC.


Leatrice Handler
Acme Co.


